Relationships can seem easy from a distance until the moment you are in exclusive relationships with a significant other. When intimacy comes into the picture, it becomes even more important to be careful about approaching your partner. Sex is like glue in a relationship, it needs to meet the expectation of both parties to make the whole union healthy. Communication is key in a relationship and intimacy as well, bottling issues that make you uncomfortable will eventually make that relationship fail. Two parties have to consents before engaging in sexual activity.
But as much as it may seem obvious and something simple enough, you could come to realize that there are some places you need to avoid going. You need to have what is referred to as enthusiastic content between the two of you. The most important things is to ensure that your partner is comfortable and that you are respectful to them in intimacy. Consensual sex sometimes could be illegal especially in cases where there has been bodily harm. Some couples have even created contracts that outline the kind of consent they are committed to as people who are intimate with each other. The contracts clearly show what you can do to your partner and what is not acceptable and vice versa.
The contracts aim to prevent cases of abuse during intimacy by the partners raising red flags by use of safewords to end the intimacy if the partner feels uncomfortable. There short term contracts that will be binding for just a few hours or even just for a night. Obtaining consent from partners to some may be misunderstood as portraying women as the gender that hates sex and men as the opposite but that is not the case. It takes understanding your partner well and communication to sort out what is not clear.
Today the dating scene has become a little bit more relaxed, people will meet online and address these issues venue before they get to the point they are intimate and that makes things clear for both parties going forward. It takes addressing the difference between consent given and that which has been denied so that you have healthy intimate relationships in the future with your partners. It also helps to ask your partner questions on some unclear boundaries, but you need to do that in a smart way. Consent is ideal for both partners but more so for the society at large. There will be very few cases of sex abuse if people understand and follow the rule of consent.